The Gift Of Time
This year, I want to give you The gift of more time. I want your arms around me As we gaze at the sea…
All Dating and Relationship Articles
Delist Your Love Life
There is a common myth frequently harbored by those seeking love: it’s dangerous, it’s misleading, and it masquerades itself as discernment. This article is for every one of you who’ve declared: “I know what I want.” Well…no, you don’t…
Offline Dating
Watch Tom try to find a date… offline. Life is a social game, yet today, personal contact is shared most commonly through virtual means. The screen of a phone, tablet or computer are the secretaries of our personal lives. Directed by Samuel Abrahams, the short documentary “Offline Dating” is a refreshing look at relationships from the outside of the virtual world, told through the story of one brave soul trying to find a date the old-fashioned way…
In Simplistic Terms
I want the Bay Area again. I want black coffee And your arms around me. I want us drunk on dark beer Or red wine and fresh bread…
The Origins of Hookup Culture
Last week, The Washington Post featured an article by John Birger discussing the prevailing culture of casual hook ups and its present-day mascot–Tinder. According to Birger, the sexualized dating culture is symptomatic of shifting demographics among college graduates. This supply-and-demand explanation only paints a partial picture, however. A deeper dive into American demographic data renders this “dating crisis” increasingly unnerving…
What To (not) Tawk About
Since we specialize in first dates, our matchmakers are often asked for appropriate date icebreakers. We curate blind date experiences that we plan and book for our matches. Suddenly face-to-face with a potential new love interest, new clients struggle a little bit for “safe” topics and tried-and-true conversation starters. What should or shouldn’t they say?…
What To Tawk About
EPISODE II OF THE WHAT TO TAWK ABOUT SERIES. CATCH UP ON EPISODE 1 HERE. So what SHOULD you talk about? Everything else! The best relationships begin with a conversation–a two-way conversation. They unfold naturally, organically, as two people introduce their best selves to one another, discovering along the way, and hopefully developing an appreciation for who that other person actually is. (Which is why the very idea of “choosing” a potential mate from a photograph or basic profile is so wholly ineffective.) Good date conversation starters can’t be answered with a simple “yes” or “no”, but are open-ended, with the power to spark a conversation that might last for hours. Some examples…
Yeah, We’ve Got Some Questions.
We’ve decided to take you along a couple of times a week–with pieces inspired by the wacky, inspiring, confusing, and inspirational stuff we trip over –because we want to see what you think. Each piece will end with a question, because the topic in question has got us itching to continue the conversation. So, please, jump in. As we like to say during our clients’ post-date-feedback, “there is no such thing as TMI” when you’re working with a personal matchmaker, so don’t be afraid to tell us what you really think. Perhaps you’ll inspire additional research, or maybe a survey to query the learned and delightfully opinionated folks in our database for their take, and maybe a follow-up article or two right here on the blog…
Question of the Day: Tinder. The Hook-up Culture. Thoughts? Anyone?
Last month, CNN published an article entitled: “Has Tinder Replaced Dating with Hookup Culture?” Feel free to read it all the way through, but mostly it’s one commentator’s perspective on “hook-up culture” in general. For instance, one fellow referenced is named Alex, a guy who works on Wall Street (naturally) who is able to have sex with as many as 100 women a month thanks to app-enabled dating…
An Open Marriage
This article is about a happy marriage. And the recovery from it…
The Heart Beat: Dating to Marry
This week, a reporter for a national magazine rung us up to ask how a gal could know if her fella is “marriage material.” They’re looking for specific “signs” that a boyfriend might be a keeper, and wondered how we might advise a client asking this type of question. Our matchmakers, as you can imagine, had plenty of answers for her. But it got me to thinking–because of course nothing is simple when it comes to people’s love lives–that maybe this wasn’t the right question. Or rather, that this simple question stirred up other questions that feel more fundamental and somehow important, like, “why do people date in the first place?” or, asked another way, “is it correct to assume that everyone dating hopes it will lead to marriage?”
A Eulogy for Things Not Meant to Be
She once told me it was the sweet innocence of it all that welcomed her in; but in the end, I think it was its wrongness that made her keep fighting long after she should have let go. She enjoyed playing with the complexities of life in that way. You see, even as pups, wolves should never be turned into pets–they just aren’t meant to lead a domesticated life. But when she came across that small creature on her property, barely two weeks old, three pounds, and abandoned–she was a goner. Things changed irrefutably in that instant, for her, and for everyone in her life. I guess that’s why we’re here today…
