An Open Marriage
This article is about a happy marriage. And the recovery from it…
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The Heart Beat: Dating to Marry
This week, a reporter for a national magazine rung us up to ask how a gal could know if her fella is “marriage material.” They’re looking for specific “signs” that a boyfriend might be a keeper, and wondered how we might advise a client asking this type of question. Our matchmakers, as you can imagine, had plenty of answers for her. But it got me to thinking–because of course nothing is simple when it comes to people’s love lives–that maybe this wasn’t the right question. Or rather, that this simple question stirred up other questions that feel more fundamental and somehow important, like, “why do people date in the first place?” or, asked another way, “is it correct to assume that everyone dating hopes it will lead to marriage?”
A Eulogy for Things Not Meant to Be
She once told me it was the sweet innocence of it all that welcomed her in; but in the end, I think it was its wrongness that made her keep fighting long after she should have let go. She enjoyed playing with the complexities of life in that way. You see, even as pups, wolves should never be turned into pets–they just aren’t meant to lead a domesticated life. But when she came across that small creature on her property, barely two weeks old, three pounds, and abandoned–she was a goner. Things changed irrefutably in that instant, for her, and for everyone in her life. I guess that’s why we’re here today…
You May Be a Love Addict if…
Most human beings thrive in connected, intimate relationships – of course – but some folks seem to need to be in a romantic relationship more than others. Of course all people feel lonely from time to time — sometimes even in the midst of a relationship — this is part of the human condition. However, some report feeling “empty” until they have a boyfriend or girlfriend, as though they are incomplete if not partnered. They find themselves unable to be happy on their own. Can you relate to this feeling?
Welcome To Heartalytics
Tawkify has officially entered the blogosphere. On a daily basis, our talented team shares incredible stories from the front lines of our work as weavers of love: invaluable insights about sticky relationship issues, our treasured clients and the nuanced art and science we practice known as Matchmaking. What emerges around our water cooler is a tableau of contemporary dating culture that’s begging to be shared. So I am pleased to be able to share it with you through our new blog, Heartalytics.
Got To Believe In Something: “Something” by The Beatles/James Brown
I’ve always loved love songs. They make magic. They affirm belief in fate. They outline a divine plan that guides our love lives, pushing us through the wrong relationships and inexorably toward the arms of “the one.” Love songs accept love at first sight as a fact (I’m not sold on this particular theme). Regardless, they give us hope. That’s what gives them power. My “love song” story is about the first time I saw a photography student whose name isn’t really Thomas. I was a freshman in college, at a screening of The Rocky Horror Picture Show…
The Origin Story, NYC
Gotham. Metropolis. NYC. The super-dater who chooses this city has great responsibility ahead of him or her. There’s never a dull moment and a “date” can happen anywhere; standing on a corner in the east village or sitting next to someone on the subway. Fair warning, there will be trials and you may have to jump a few rooftops before you find your dazzling someone. New Yorkers have to be savvy. It takes the strength and stamina of a superhero to make it here. So come on Batman, let’s go find your Batgirl, Robin, Poison Ivy or…whoever it is you’re looking for…
Matchmaker Says: She’s Paleo, You’re A Vegan.
Dear Matchmakers: I’m in love with a woman who follows a paleo diet, but I’m a 80-10-10 low-fat raw vegan/fruitarian, so we have fruits and vegetables in common for food. We’ve talked about having children; she says we’d have to decide on the best diet between us for feeding our future kids, but I don’t think she’ll side with mine, and I won’t side with her diet. We’ve also both stated that we didn’t think the other was our first priority type, but I’ve come to love her anyway, and she says she possibly could fall for me in the future, but in the mean time she’s going to look for her first type, and if she doesn’t find him, she knows she can come back to me. What do we do to resolve this situation? – Magician type Changer
Wayfaring Dater: Dallas
Strap on your boots and pull out your high intensity hairspray–we’re tackling dating in the big ‘D’! Dallas has a great sense of appreciation for different cultures and the arts. If you have a pioneering spirit and you like the heat, this is your city. Don’t shy away from looking for a two-step partner to step out with here. Even though Texas is riddled with stereotypical types, there really is someone for everyone here; it’s not all gun-strapping men and busty blondes…
YESTERDAY, ANY WAY YOU MADE IT WAS JUST FINE: “Something On Your Mind,” Karen Dalton
A popular rumor about Karen Dalton is that she died homeless on the streets of New York. (In fact, although her life and especially the latter part of it retains a lot of mystery, it seems that she spent her last couple of weeks under the care of guitarist Peter Walker in southeastern New York state.) Her biography is murky enough to allow for imagination, and archetypical enough to suggest the tragedy of the folk singer. Her voice is a storied and sad alto, the kind of voice that makes you feel you know her personally…
Tawkify’s Bread & Butter = Our Matchmakers
Today, like most days, I was inspired by our team of matchmakers. Our approach to couple creation hinges upon their talents, initiative and knowledge. They truly are the oil in the gears that keeps this love matching machine in motion. The aspect of the team that I find most compelling is that each matchmaker approaches this job differently–there’s […]
50 Best Valentine’s Day Quotes for Singles
Being single on Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a drag. It could even be—dare I say—celebrated? This February 14th, don’t even think about feeling sorry for yourself and, instead, embrace this special stage in your life where you get to focus entirely on you. Yes, that means eating all the chocolate you want, penning […]
