While there are all kinds of variations within partners, mixed-attractiveness couples do go somewhat against the grain. We’re often cautioned that real beauty is found within, but good looks are among the more highly rated characteristics in what people say they want in a romantic partner. And in general, couples tend to be more similar in many respects…
We’ve come to associate courting with a chase. We secretly enjoy the thrills and lows that come with love you have to fight to earn. It makes us feel like we’re getting something worth our efforts. We need to know that there is value in something before we can invest in it…
Sometimes you learn the most about a destination because you let yourself be vulnerable and live enough in the moment to meet someone who can share a local perspective…
The key is to notice and be aware of your internal sorting process, and at the same time, be courteous and grateful to the date for offering you these realizations. In this sense, there is never actually a “bad date” because they are all offering you very useful data and intel for your life and relationship creation process…
Connection Camp is for any adult who is longing to dive into deeper relating with themselves and others. Anyone craving a sense of community…
Q: “My problem is not that I don’t encounter attractive people or individuals that catch my attention. My problem is that I’m shy and I don’t really know how to approach people I don’t know. Any suggestions?”—Katy R.
Q: Last week, I went on a date with someone that I really like. She was funny and smart and I was surprised to see that we had a lot of things in common. There’s just one problem. There was no chemistry…
Personal rituals are necessary to bookend your dating process…
The relationship with your matchmaker is unlike any other in your life. There is trust, respect, camaraderie–yes. But, you are not friends in the traditional sense. You are working together to achieve a very serious and important goal…so what does that really look like…
Because however exciting a new crush can be, making every effort to stay grounded is important too. In the early stages of a relationship, you can be at risk for “losing” yourself, and also for missing or dismissing cues (or warning signs) with implications to your potential long-term compatibility with this person…
Isn’t it interesting that when someone has never been married and is over a certain age, we’re inclined to wonder “What’s wrong with you?” But when someone is divorced and a certain age, we typically don’t wonder the same thing…
The lingering moment at the goodbye is always a good time, so don’t rush through that part and miss your window. Say goodbye, you had a great time, reach for the hand and if she isn’t rushing away…
